I don't own one, but my family owns three of them, all of them are white in color.
Here is how it goes, hang on this might get long winded. Years ago my mom bought one it probably was a 2016 model. She drove it for a while and then decided to buy herself a new Toyota Avalon. Being that dad had a 2017 Honda Ridgeline and there were just two of them they decided that they needed to get rid of one vehicle. They gave the low mileage Toyota Highlander to my sister's daughter, since she was driving a high mileage Honda CRV. Mom drove the Avalon for a while and decided she wanted a newer Avalon, so she trades and gets 2019 Avalon. The 2019 was a dang nice car, I got to drive it when we went places together. Well, mom drove the 2019 Avalon for a while and finally just came out and said I dont like that new Avalon, I like the Toyota Highlanders better. Ok, so there they go, her and dad go see their favorite Toyota salesman at the Toyota place. They trade the 2019 Avalon for a loaded 2019 Highlander. Mom said she can get in and out of the Highlander better and likes it. She still loves the Highlander, I just took it in for a 30000 mile service the other day.
Ok, I have talked about 2 of the Highlanders my sister has the third one, it's probably a 2016 or 2017 model, don't know for sure. It has 70000 or more miles on it.
I have driven moms Highlanders hundreds of miles on 600 mile trips and when we go out to eat together. I am the designated driver since I'm younger I suppose. Nope, their not drunk when I drive them. The Highlander has lots of power and will get out of harm's way in a hurry. They drive and ride great for a SUV. Fuel mileage is in the 20s, I cant remember what it was on that 600 mile trip, seem like it was 26 mpg or better according to the computer, I never did a hand calculation on mileage. All three Highlanders are AWD, but I have never had the pleasure of driving one in the snow. To my knowledge, out of the three, there has been no major issues that I know of other than some kind of recall on mom's 2019, something about the fuel system.. I took it to the dealer and got it fixed, but can't remember the details.
All in all, I wouldn't hesitate one bit to purchase a Toyota Highlander. Their a solid vehicle for sure. I would think that it could tow something pretty good, I dont know about 5000 pounds. Power wise it could probably pull it, it's the stopping part that might concern me.
My wife's vehicle is a 2013 Acura RDX, AWD, V6. It has about 69000 miles on it and has been a great vehicle so far. It will haul the mail as they say, handles like a dream and it is capable of 27 mpg or better on the open road. I have driven it in deep snow before, it performs well. If you ask me which one I like best, I would take the Acura over the Highlander, because it's sportier, performance wise. I dont think the RDX has a high tow rating, plus the new ones have a dam turbo 4 banger. I've driven the new ones, they have the power, but had to go turbo to match the V6. Pisses me off about these car companies going turbo on small engines to get power and MPG. Heck, did you know that GM is putting a Turbo, 2.7 Liter, 4 banger in the half ton trucks now? The Acura MDX still has the great V6, it's bigger than the RDX and costs more.
Sorry about the long post, I just had to put my input into it.